Yep Kathy, I do realize those things, all good pointers. And told my clients many of those insights.
I was at our big yearly ICAW meeting this weekend, great fun, lots of good seminars and discussions. One of them was how to work with a 8-12 week old pup that is going into its new (re-homed) home and learning to be obedient and learn who his humans are to him, as in "the boss". It is a cool method taught by a training company and specifically targets the 8-12 week old pup. Maybe others will find great help in trying this also. So the process is this: Put puppy in your lap or get down on the floor with him (if he is too big to set in your lap) and position him between your knees on his back and force him to lay still. hands go on his chest, fingers around his front legs and neck area. He will struggle, but sharply tell him "NO", a sharp, loud sound to startle him. He may struggle for a minutes even, but eventually he will stop struggling, relax & lay still. Once he lays still, praise him for being a good puppy. touch his feet and ears while he is there. get out a brush and introduce that to his coat. the amount of pressure you use will correspond to his resistance. the instructor said that you should do this putting him on his back every day for several days but within a short time you should see improvement in his listening to you as his leader.
Soooo, if anyone does try this I would love feedback.